Question: I’m 36. I met a very cute guy at a networking event. We went on a couple of dates and everything was going wonderful. Wonderful enough that we wound up in bed a few dates later. Only to find out that he is uncircumcised. I was visibly shocked, I made up an excuse and I left, though not before knocking over 3 chairs. I’ve been dodging his phone calls ever since. Am I wrong for not wanting to be with him??
Answer: First things first. You’re wrong for how you handled it. You’re 36 which makes you old enough to know how to finesse yourself out of a situation. Always remain a lady and leave them wishing they had you, not why they should be glad they don’t. Next time you find yourself with a man you’d rather not see naked, sneeze and cough then feign dizziness. Or mention the single dreaded word, “menstruation”. He’ll freak and you’re off the hook and outside hailing a cab.
That being said, NO you should not feel bad! You are allowed to have a preference for whatever you want to. And it does not have to be a pickle in a turtleneck. They are not my on my list of must-haves and I applaud the women who have to stare that thing in the “eye” because they’ve unfortunately married it!
Men make all sort of choices about us. “Her boobs are too small. Hips too wide. She has droopy knees. Her eyes are too close together.” I recently heard a man tell his friend, “I couldn’t stand the way her elbows sagged.” WELL MEN, we reserve the right to not like your funny looking penis that your mom has chosen to unleash on unknowing women! We reserve the right to think you are awesome but your “member” is not and so you must be demoted to “friend” or “associate”. At the very least, we reserve the right to not have to touch it.
By all means, you aren’t wrong. But next time, exit a bit more gracefully 🙂