The Husband Hunter

Question:

I want to be married and I want to have children but I have so little faith in monogamy at this point. I’m 36 and years of dating has left me more interested in Netflix than a relationship.I don’t believe a thing these dudes say at this point. All of them have a hidden agenda. But I’m worried I’m going to look back years from now and wish I had been more proactive. Winding up alone with 7 cats isn’t my dream either. What should I do? Do I just keep pushing forward? My husband has to be out there somewhere right??

Answer:

Honey, sometimes being home with Netflix really IS better than a date! Who can agree with me? You don’t have to get dressed up. You don’t have to make conversation. You also don’t have to listen to your blind date’s extremely boring dissertation on how he finally learned how to make the perfect protein shake. (insert eye roll and slight gag)

I think the mistake here is how you are approaching all of this. You are husband hunting. And though we all like to think we are secretly fooling every man we meet with our, “I love just being casual” and “I’m not looking for anything serious either.” ‘s the truth is your desperation meets him at the bar before you do.

Finding a husband should not be your goal. Finding a good man should be your goal. Finding an honest man should be a top priority. And most of all, you should seek to find a man who compliments you and who makes your soul come alive. But I think the key here is to not try to “find” him at all.

You know how dogs can sense fear? Well men can sense your bitter ass from a mile away. Stop looking. Spend time with your girlfriends. Take up a hobby. Travel somewhere. And travel alone. Get to know yourself again. Clearly, the man hunt hasn’t worked so try something different. Work on making yourself the best version of yourself you can. Change your vibration and you will change the type of man you attract.

 

 

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